(05-10-2012, 07:52 AM)Flask Man Wrote: You are the 1st to read my review and take offense to it. Sorry you feel that way, but you can't please everyone. I will, however, kindly ask you to refrain from anymore rude, personal attacks on me, or anyone else you happen to disagree with. I respect Haley tremendously, both as an artist and as a person. If you're easily offended by the sexual elements of Haley's music and persona than perhaps you need to be more selective about which songs you listen to, and what comments/reviews you read.
To take it a step further, pointing out Haley's very good at expressing seduction and sexuality in her music, and suggesting she must be "one hell of a good lover" by extension, is certainly not an insult. Quite the opposite. Appreciating the art as an impressive reflection of who she is as a person is showing her the utmost respect.
Understand, I come at this by trying to put a perspective into this.
-Sensuality/sexuality is a component of Haley's professional persona. It is a part of performance and public persona. Haley, herself, is privately, somewhat shy and humble, from a 'salt of the earth' family upbringing. The Sensuality is in her performance, when she get's out of that persona, she reverts to a shy, almost embarrassed at her popularity, self.
-Haley's fans come from a very wide range of ages, from very young to fairly...."mature"
. The young fans, Haley loves (from all public encounters I've seen of Haley and kids, you can tell she adores them).
Haley also has a significant number of , 'older', fans who are not necessarily technologically forward (so may not know you from Twitter), and more than likely have a fairly conservative attitude, and loves Haley's music as it is reminiscent of the music they listened to when they were young.
-So there we have the conundrum. Haley understands that her 'charisma' and 'sexuality' are tools in her bag, that she uses to combine with her musicality to reach the goals that she needs to succeed in the industry. She has to tread a line that allows for that, but not over the top to lose her young fans or her older, more conservative fans, by going OTT, "Lady GaGa" sexuality. Haley tries to communicate an 'old time', 'days long past' brand of sexuality, a sort of 'classy' sexuality.
Many of Haley's fans are sometimes overly sensitized to criticism of Haley by trolling haters who use her 'sexuality' as a way to call her slutty, or that she has no talent and relies upon being slutty. We heard comments like that for many months from haters, so some of us over react in Haley's defense when that kind of 'critique' comes along.
You, while being a very BIG Haley fan and supporter, have a 'brusque' way of expressing yourself, often being blunt and unapologetic about your opinions which, at times, include fairly sexualized references that sometimes may be perceived as 'unflattering' or 'rude', perhaps perceived as 'disrespectful' by more conservative sensibilities.
That comes back to the comments in your review. I know we clashed at IDF in your short stint there. I perceived your comments, at the time, as 'disrespectful' bordering on 'rude'.
I have since seen some of your tweets and posts around the internet, and understand that, you don't have the same type of sensitivities that many have, and so express your opinions on Haley's sexuality in a more... 'in your face' kind of way.
That might rub those 'conservative' Haley fans who don't know your way of expressing yourself, the wrong way. If I perceived your comments on IDF as 'disrespectful', I can see how others might as well. I understand your point of view alot better now so am not 'insulted', necessarily as I might have been back then.
To say he was the first to 'take offense' at your review is actually inaccurate. Someone at IDF, who didn't know you, had actually started a thread calling your review 'Creepiest review ever" . I actually posted in there to defend your Haley fan-hood, that your comments sometimes rub some the wrong way, and that you are VERY supportive of Haley.
So understand, this is not an accusation or meant to be anything bad about you or your fan-hood. Just understand that your more sexualized way of putting things do, at times, rub people the wrong way who may be overly defensive of Haley who mistake your comments with the haters who use similar verbiage. So maybe tone down those references a bit, or understand why sometimes people misinterpret what you say.
I appreciate your support of Haley over the months, I'm just submitting my honest and hopefully, objective, perspective on this before there is more misunderstanding ...
